thats why she is a "best friend"....

A friend is someone whome u can tell all ur secrets… because u know it will be kept safe…, a best friend is someone who knows ur secrets.., u don’t have to tell her, just one look and she ll know what ur thinking… dedicated to my best friends who kept me sane through all insanity.. unfortunately I cant write da best incidents :P

1. When u suddenly have a public meltdown a friend will squeeze ur hand and say “everything is gonna be alright” a best friend will drag you to the closest washroom and tell “cry now… next time u cry in public im gonna slap u”

2. When ur in hospital ur friend will bring you apples and flowers… ur best friend will send ur mom home and spend the night with u…

3. When ur not at home and when a friend comes…, she ll chat with ur mom drinking a cup of tea, ur best friend will go the kitchen and help her cook…

4. Ur friend will barge in to ur room look at the mess and laugh… ur best friend will start cleaning it out for u…

5. A friend will ask u whats wrong… a best friend will figure out whats wrong…

6. When u want to sneak behind ur guy to see if he is cheating on u, a friend will say “he is a jerk, he is not worth it”... a starving best friend will go around Colombo with you to hunt him down :P

7. A friend will borrow your cloths and return in few days… a best friend will steal your cloths and will never return back…

8. A friend invites you for lunch…., a best friend comes in, goes to the kitchen and eats in ur kitchen…

9. When ur sick, a friend will call to see if u are alright…, a best friend will walk all the way to ur office with a bundle of capsules and syrups…

10. When ur having an exam the next day and haven’t studied a bit, ur friend will wish and pray for u, ur best friend will call u and will start teaching u just so u wont screw up…

11. When a random guy is being a pain in the ass and doesn’t get that “you are not interested” a friend will tell him off… a best friend will pretend to be your girlfriend to scare him off…

12. When u lose touch with a friend, it takes a while to catch up, friends need to be updated.. best friends have telepathy…, they just know… ;)

Friends can be seasonal… friends can be opportunists… friends can be disappeared after some time… friends can betray… friends can fallback after some time… friends may come in to your life and they may go away…

Best friends will be there, they have life time membership… they are authorized to influence you, to slap you, to kick u and sometimes even to kill u before u dig ur own grave…

That’s why u call her a “best friend”… because she is exclusive in ur life and authenticated to steal ur stuff… (not boyfriends) That’s why we call her a best friend, because she knows u in and out… and she wont be shocked with the wildest decisions u make…, because deep down inside she knows u better than u know urself… and she has faith in u, more than u have in urself… she will bring the best in u because she believes in u more than anyone else… J

Well played boys… 2015 is not far away…. !!!

It was an awesome feeling when everything began on 19^th of Feb… a season of joy, fun, team spirit … Sri Lanka was on such a hype that every office in Colombo seemed to be empty by 2.30 on a day that Lanka had a match to play… Country was filled with wishes, prayers, cutouts, banners and loads of songs about our beloved cricket team wishing them luck…

Among us, there were one or two who loudly predicted that “SL wont atleast qualify for quarter finals” But for the rest of us it was one wish.. one prayer... one hope.. one thought… We had our fingers crossed…. SL qualified day by day… people cheered across every street, every corner, every lane, every house when each boundry was played… people blasted the team when catches were missed (I thould I’d kill thilan Samaraweera for missing that catch and chamara silva for almost ruining the match)…

Semi Finals was a smooth smooth ride giving us lots of hopes, increases of heartbeats and adrenaline rushes… Entire Colombo was filled with blue t-shirts by Friday… it was such a hype everyone was looking forward to… Murali was given the best send off ever during his last match in the island…

We lost, lost with grace as I see…, but sad to see that many Sri Lankans don’t feel the same… Some say god decided to break 20 million hearts because he couldn’t break 120 crore hearts… 2^nd of April was a heart breaking day… tears of sadness mixed with tears of pride was in every Sri Lankan’s eyes… some saw it in a different way… At the end of the day its how everyone accepts defeat… some blame it on the team, some blame it on the President (as usual), some blame it on sanga…, some blame it on the selectors… some just simply accept that we did mistakes but Indian team played better cricket than we did…

“dear sanga..., u showed character and strength as a true captain... dignity with every step u took as leader... all the blames which come ur way today will be forgotten in a while & u will be written in history as one of the most charismatic captains ever.... keep shining.. il always love u…” I posted this on Kumar Sangakkara’s Facebook wall when I heard that he has officially resigned as the captain. Sanga, we don’t want an apology from you, No apology is expected from a country that treats its cricketers with dignity and love… we know you did ur best and u will always do…

When the team arrived on Sunday majority of us were having a smile on our face to welcome back them home… I felt proud, proud to be a Sri Lankan... not coz of cricket but to be one among 20 million people for the love & warmth they showed with open arms to welcome a defeated team...the amazing grace & dignity displayed to rise above the rest in a true spirit of unity and sportsmanship....

“Welcome back home boys - greeting you all with open arms. Murali, I'll tell my grandchildren (or cats) that I've seen your legend in the making - you're a cricketing phenom and Lanka will continue to brag about you for decades to come. Congratulations neighbours, it was a good game - party hard for 28 years' worth…” – Shamalee de Silva

murali, you were the best cricketer sri lanka ever produced..., the ultimate cricket hero to millions of fans... u will always be the most dignified cricketer we ever had and will be proud of u many decades to come… cheers for the spirit, courage and energy u gave in the name of sri lankan cricket... we will always love u...

The rest of the guys, You united a nation, during times of overjoyed victories to a hug of losing a game… you played with grace and dignity that it overshadowed the final result. .. we welcome you home boys… It will take sometime for us to overcome the lost hope and sadness… but one thing for sure, Sri Lankans will always stand behind you with a Sri Lankan smile, a pat on the shoulder and a waving flag behind every game you play… J

growing up....

“In some ways we grow up…we have families… we make friends, we get married, divorced… but for the most part we still have the same problems that we did when we were fifteen. No matter how much we grow taller, grow older, we are still forever stumbling… forever wondering, forever… young.. forever stupid”

However much old you get, no one of us can kill the child inside us who doesn’t want to grow up… Along lines we build patience, we manage to smile and talk to the person we cant stand but the child in us makes sure that we stuck our toungue out behind his back… Someone said “It's easy to be nice to people you like.... But to be nice to people you hate... That's a SKILL!!!!”

“I've heard that it's possible to grow up - I've just never met anyone who's actually done it. Without parents to defy, we break the rules we make for ourselves. We throw tantrums when things don't go our way, we whisper secrets with our best friends in the dark, we look for comfort where we can find it, and we hope - against all logic, against all experience. Like children, we never give up hope...”

When we were small there were days that an ice cream would fix a mood, a chocolate would make a crying face smile…. Believe me it still works ;) Remember those days when nestum was the only breakfast mom can feed us before we ran to school? If someone asks what is the favourite breakfast we blurt out without thinking twice… because still like small days we make up a face and push the plate away if we are given to eat something we don’t like…

Growing up means responsibilities… it also means reducing all ways and means to screw up… Growing up is letting go.., making decisions and not looking back… People make mistakes, they learn then they move on… Some things never change… Just because we grew up we wont be willing to forgive and forget some things that created a scar down the line… when we were kids people call us stubborn simply because we don’t like to eat something or because we cry till we get something which we want soo badly… which is not the case few years later… it takes time to make decisions, we change decisions and end up making wrong ones… yet knowing that we refuse to change…

Sometimes people face different ups and downs as kids... bundle sorrows and scars as kids… sometimes we cover ourselves with secrets and unknown likes, dislikes and desires… along the line at some day it pops out at an unexpected moment… sometimes it doesn’t… sometimes you have to meet someone who can unwrap the parceled YOU to the core… sometimes we have to present ourselves to the right ones who can unwrap the layers and unravel to see the real person inside… the real person if unraveled might be the kid who was few years ago.. ;)

“Growing up is never easy... You hold on to things that were… You wonder what's to come... and look ahead to what would be… Other days… New days… Days to come… The thing is, we didn't have to hate each other, hate life for getting older... We just had to forgive ourselves... for growing up.”

Dear Santa....

Dear Santa....

Hope you are all happy and merry… you should be, you have holidays all year through and do your job is only one day… ok maybe a week… hey its not fair, you should do your groundwork to check what people like and if they have been good or bad… you expect us to do your job and send it in writing… damn you are lazy…but you are considered highly honorable so we have no choice but to update you with what we like… J

I haven’t been good this year. I have hurt so many people I love, I made mistakes, I have been rude and witchy. and bitchy to a certain extent this year. I don’t wanna lie to you although im very sure you’d believe me if I do coz you are too lazy to figure things out anyway…… and why you chose to come through the chimney still bugs me, you are one weird guy aren’t you :P

One advice for you though, please don’t hide gifts inside socks… people don’t use socks anymore… its outdated… which century do you live in? I think you should join fb…, so a quick status view you’ll know what people want…

I don’t think I have the right to ask anything from you this year,

a) because I haven’t been good this year so I don’t qualify to ask for anything and

b) you didn’t give me what I wanted last year so I lost faith in you.

So I decided to ask for what few of my friends want…the ones who have been good this year :D

no im not writing names, its for me to know and you to find out…

My little bro needs 3B’s for AL’s… He is brainy but too lazy… distract him a bit from all these cute girls and facebook for a bit…make him study real hard this time so he can top with 3 As J

You need to give a hug and a bagful of happiness to my best friend this Christmas… she is down these days, ill give you a hint… let her see you coming through the chimney im sure the sight of a fat big old man squeezing through the chimney will be hilarious for few days :P

You need to stretch Christmas for 6 more days… my little sister wants to keep the most precious gift of hers closer to her till her birthday… it will be a dream come true for the whole world with one week holiday :D its your golden chance to be a super hero…

I need to be an aunt soon… so you need to get my elder sister pregnant… (the one who is married not the others- now don’t confuse with the other ones ok… we don’t want unwanted pregnancies for unmarried women) bless her to give us a little baby girl as artistic, creative, talkative and crazy just like her…

Santa, this other sister of mine needs to fall in love soon… Tell her that she needs to take the chance once in a while to break the wall which is blocking her from herself... tell her that its alright to get hurt sometimes because it will only make her stronger…

You need to steal the mobile phones of the most stupidest sister I have… lock them in a cupboard so she doesn’t dial potential in-laws while making out with “apna pardesi”… No hold it… make all her potential inlaws deaf…, cos she is anyway capable of saying that how much she hates their country out loud anytime soon…

Dear Santa, my son needs to be a crocodile…. Find me a lovely daughter in law so he will start having better dreams… he is a potential romantic… so why waste romeos?? This country needs romantic boyfriends desperately….

My 14 year old brother wants to grow up soon… tell him that this is the age of innocence…. Tell him that he should enjoy all the crushes that come his way ;) big or small and fall over and over again… so when he truly falls one day he will be thankful to all the experiences that came his way…

He needs his baby girl with him this Christmas… or he needs a time machine to go back to his past with her… Give him a time machine to go for one day’s ride to the future.. so he ll realize that hanging on to the past is a waste… and learn to let go…

Bless her this Christmas so she wont cut the line off the big fat dude she is crazy about calls her to ask her out… make her say YES… But santa if he plays around make sure you hire him as your assistant… he can run around and do your homework for you… he is gonna be jobless from next month anyway ;)

Well that’s all from me this time… I’ve lost faith in you but don’t let my friends lose faith in you too :P

Fingers crossed XXXX

You be Good,

From

One confused witch :P

P.S. Buy a phone…. Letters aren’t considered as a communication method anymore… its too outdated…

stolen quotes by few of my favourite people :P

who invented Mondays? They suck

- Shamalee de silva

(sooo true and agreed completely)

Screw all you people who are proud to be Sri Lankan only when we win a match :P

- Rehan Fernando

(i love this)

When I get there I look for you, If your there, It makes me mad, When your not there I am miserable

- Hazel Rajiah

(i know the feeling... it sucks)

I need someone who can make me cry when I smile and make me smile when I cry

- Dayan Silva

(didnt quite understand this... i will slap someone who makes me cry when i smile)

vichi cry with me if you need to… but you cry in front of them and ill slap you

- Akila Kodituwakku

(i love u aki... blessed to have someone who cares abt me more than i do abt myself )

i dnt want a single woman in my life other than u 'mom'

- Dushan de Silva

(okkk now this kinda freaked me out... managed to create quite a controversy on fb)

don’t chase the one whome you are in love with. Go for the one who is crazily in love with you... so then one day even when chemistry and passion fades out, he will still stand by you to share a life time despite how intolerable we are…

- Nipunika Solangarachchi

(thanks nips... ur advice taken in the new year)

Women are like traffic lights, they give clear signals RED – No don’t even think of making a move, Yellow – Still pending… Green – Yes yes yes… but it takes an intelligent man to read them… well some are just plain colour blind

- Kaushalya Mendis

(LOL one of the best of kaushi)

I loved you... I wanted you... I got you... I lost you...

- Anushka Pieris

(this is so real and emo)

remember.. when u work on a dream... it will turn out to be a target than a dream....else it is just another dream... like I wanted to be hugged by Jude Law in my dreams... i never ever set it my target :D

- Sumudu Hewage

(i decided never to dream... when i wake up its like living a nightmare... i happen to compare dreams with reality)

take the chance… go for it… sometimes in life you need to get hurt.. but believe me you will be alright

- Sharnez Abeywardena

(love u and thank u... ur my inspiration :D )

women are like cars… to keep them up and running you have to keep maintaining them at a very high cost…. Higher the model is higher the cost

- Anushan Weerasooriya

(you said this loong time ago... what to do ya, u keep on going for expensive models na )

getting married means going through a lot… it means doing someone else laundry…

- Mrs. Anurika de Silva

(true and freaky)

The word ‘de-motivation’ is not in our dictionary… it happens to us on a daily basis… we cant afford to be demotivated because we don’t have time for it

- Vibhu Wickramasinghe

(this thought itself motivated me... )

you can never have a long term plan when you are approaching a woman.. its always short term… women are too unpredictable to plan in long term

- Laknada de Mel

(insulted but agreed... maybe with the right approach u can plan long term )

you cant judge people based on opinions… everyone is entitled to have their own opinion… who gave you the right to judge mine

- Gail Bandara

(i wish everyone thinks like this... )

you are intolerable... spoilt... immature... crazy and impatient... but we love u anyway ;)

- Nilanka Fernando

(love u too for loving the real me)

I guess its always harder to get over being let down by those you hold dear because you never expect them to do so

- Shyana Wijeratne

(and also because u dont hold everyone close to ur heart)

what keeps me going... 8 years down the line.. still to be a LEO... :)

Most of my friends tell me enough of being a Leo and I should quit without wasting my time… Given lot of thought to it… I realized… it was 8 years ago…

My heart was in to help out someone less fortunate always but seeing my parents run one meeting to another, I hated Lions and the every bit of wasting time in it… I was forced to join the dilemma and that too as the first club president of a new leo club… when I was picked at the final orientation I was traumatized… it was just after ALs, I had 20 guys and 2 girls in the club… and truly I didn’t know what to do… it wasn’t easy, coz everybody were elder and as a president I didn’t wanna boss them around but STILL had to made them listen and work… I learnt my first lesson from Leoism very soon… not every person can be approached in the same way… to get things done, some need to be buttered up... some need to be complimented… and YES some needs to be yelled at… Flirting must have worked too but it was never my style back then :P Soon I realized that its not easy to lead people from different walks of life without being diplomatic and tactful… never being a diplomat for the last 18 years, I learnt to listen, to ignore, to voice out and mostly to be patient.

Soon I started enjoying little bits of the things I did which kept me going… being a stubborn, spoilt only child of my family it taught me how to be a part of one BIG family… it taught me how the simplest things can make people happy… it taught me how to smile at little things in life… and it made me realize how blessed I was unlike many many less fortunate people in our country…

it taught me that “deadline” & “punctuality” are not just words… it taught me how to be a friend and stay calm when friends be-friend… this movement gave me my first job, it made me to do things I never even dreamt of doing before… I slapped a guy for the first time (a leo yes!!!) , I knitted a jacket for an achchi at an elders home and got blasted for messing it up, held the hand of a seeya when he cried saying how I reminded of his daughter who left him at an elders home to migrate.… I hugged a differently abled kid when he called me "amma" in front of hundreds of people... I sang carols LOUDLY… walked door to door to sell tickets in aid of cancer hospital… I got humiliated million times in public :P

I’ve seen Leos falling in and out of love with each other… I’ve seen them dating and breaking up… I’ve seen some happily married with kids today… was never the same with me, being a person who rarely get attracted to anyone this movement made me get crushes on 2 ;) (not during the same time span.. duh) both awesome ofcourse… and yes I enjoy every bit of it… even now… wont tell the rest:P

This movement taught me how people can change... how crazy… how stupid and how immature they can stoop low to earn “recognition”. It taught me that “competition” is not just a word but includes loads of sweet talks to the face and stabbing behind backs… it taught me how to say NO to people and things I don’t like ;) (ahem… wont go into details there) it taught me how to deal with psychotics and lunatics… (today I can tackle any psychopath without freaking out… lol)

It taught me how to handle criticism without getting affected…. How to accept defeat for unfair reasons…. To stay calm with a smile and realize life is not fair all the time…

I know many who left the movement because of the same reasons that I chose to stay on… experience of all these has been a guide to live my life fully without regrets… to learn, to accept, to fail to fall and then to move on…
This Leo movement made me smile… made me laugh… made me cry… made me yell… made me scream… made me love… made me human and made me LIVE my life… During the past 8 years it has seasoned me, spiced me… tempered me… and it made ME a complete human being… it made ME what im… and maybe that’s why I’m still a LEO… I had more than thousand reasons to quit… but i didn’t, because it taught me a lot much more than Leadership, Experience & Opportunity…