drawing lines... and crossing them....

“Boundaries don't keep other people out; they fence you in. Life is messy, that's how we're made. So you can waste your life drawing lines or you can live your life crossing them. But there are some lines that are way too dangerous to cross...”

Sometimes people are scared... scared to build relationships… scared to fall in… fall out and also to let go… They draw boundaries… not for others but themselves, to fence them in… a line not to cross… so they don’t get hurt… so they are protected, not from other people but themselves… But sometimes you cross the line, you cheat to yourself… you don’t know when or how it happened it just happened…

People label relationships… give it a name and expect something else… get disappointed when things don’t go the way they want them to go... and blame the relationship… and tighten the boundary line which was never intended to cross…

Sometimes relationships cannot be labeled… yes we do it for our benefit, to find excuses to cross lines and fence ourselves in.. but at times we need to accept it for what it is… understand what it is and then deal with it… we need to know that every relationship is not friendship, not brotherhood or sisterhood but sometimes it can be unexplained.. undefined and un-understandable (I don’t think such a word exists)

At every relationship we want commitment… commitment and loyalty… what scares us is that the commitment wont exist or the loyalty will fade... so we tie ourselves to a label… to a boundary… to a deadline… hoping against all odds that we wont get hurt…

There are times when even the best of us cant commit, and we may be surprised at the commitments we're willing to let go… commitments we are willing to hang on to... True commitment takes effort, trust, love, loyalty and sacrifice… Which is why sometimes… we should learn to accept people for not committing…

We can waste your life drawing lines... or we can live your life crossing them... But there are some lines that are way too dangerous to cross…. Some people are bold enough to cross them, take the risk and get hurt… can call it stupidity (that’s what I call them :P) but we will never know unless we take the chance to cross… sometimes u cant let a boundry make decisions… sometimes you should take the chance and go with the flow.. ;)

"No matter how high the stakes, sooner or later you're just gonna have to go with your gut… and maybe, just maybe, that'll take you right where you were supposed to be…."

Boy next door…. with value addition services ;)

I wrote on ur request D, under the promise that u save me when ur past, PRESENT & future girlfriends want to slap me :P

He is tall, dark with a dimple and curly hair… its fair enough to say he got it all but quite unaware of what he is worth… One of the easiest people to read… what u see is what u get… extremely simple, his face says it all… you know when he is depressed you know when he is happy… He is blessed, truly blessed… one of the rare guys who never gave any mixed signals or messages… silent and observant among his gang, he ll know to keep the image of “the intelligent guy” when others screw up in royal manners…

A gifted person by nature, quite unaware of it… thinks everything bad in this world happens to him… extreeemly possessive towards the ones he loves… sensitive and revengeful, u see statuses on fb, read it… if it makes sense then watch out.. it must be for u… (Jayantha if ur reading this… refrain from commenting to his statuses coz its NOT for u) … a very good flirt in his peak these days managing to freak out few hotties…. And managing to attract quite a few too… using cost effective tactics to flirt…, benchmarking and adopting himself with usual standards… lol

He is a spoilt… utterly spoilt only child… has one hell of an ego... try harming it, ul get a negative vibe for the rest of your life… he is the type of a friend you can hangout late with a set of random strangers without any fear coz u know he will be there... the friend you can talk to when ur having a bad day … he is the friend you can bitch on about someone and be sure that ur secret is safe…

A guy who will go out of the way to be a friend… even to the extent to pick up the girl his friend ditched… a firm believer in following his heart, although it gets him into trouble millions of times… ambitious and focused… loses focus when a skirt comes his way at times… very sensitive… with his heart at the right place he is highly inflammable and breakable by the ones he is close to… doesn’t forget and forgive easily… revengeful but will meltdown easily with the right approach… falls into trouble with his high level of ego…

A kid at times, doesn’t know the roads in Colombo… sleeps till late on weekdays… chats online secretly during work.. watches matches and gets into trouble… sometimes says “I wish I was gay”… fancies his neighbor, plans way ahead of how to give her chocolates… drinks water from a vodka bottle to get the kick of vodka in every sip…

A guy who makes blunders and then regrets… a guy who can frown and smile at the same time… he struggles and goes out of the way to make things happen… believes in love... believes in trust… believes in friendship… he believes in life… a guy whome u can trust.. who can count on… a son in law any mom will want for her daughter… a son any mom could wish for... a brother any sister can count on… a friend who will be there… he is a guy whose worth more than a million dollars… the ideal boy next door… who believes in creating a value and leaving a mark of his own…

a babe in total control of herself ;)

A dreamgirl who has never stepped to USA, has an accent that nobody understands… When it comes to taking photos she is such a fusspot… when she is insulted by someone she turns to a drama queen until he freaks out… if its about the ones she love, she will walk that extra mile to make them happy… fiercely loyal to the ones she love, will do anything in the world to spend one moment with them… sulks on her birthday because she is the first among us to be one year older… has her own way with strangers and uses her charm on men she wants to charm around… loves all her bosses for obvious reasons… a diplomat to her annoying best friends who should be kept on track… A good conversationalist who will get you to talk but wouldn’t say a single secret about herself… one hell of a good listener who offers advice without assumptions… Sleeps through Sundays… could be extremely lazy when she wants to be…

stubborn at times… demands love from her favourite people… extra sensitive over the things that matters to her, sometimes it can be “which top goes with that skirt” or sometimes it can be about someone she loves… a mixture of following her heart and thinking through her brain… Sometimes analyzes too much before deciding things which causes her to be unpredictable… Believes in simple things in life… does little things to keep her happy which shifts from shopping to gossiping to a massage to a good nap depending on her mood… does what she wants and once her mind is set its very difficult to change… The best person to talk to when u need a reality check... sound advice or philosophical overviews… U dare insult a person she loves, she ll be the first to flame up till he turns to smoke… Believes in her instincts and would follow her gut even if it leads to hell… (lol aki we both know what we r talking abt here)

Overly defensive about the ones she believes in… Passionate about the things she does, she is afraid of getting hurt, she ties herself down to her comfortable zone and it could be very difficult for someone to drag her out of it even with a logical explanation… very uninfluencial…, even when everyone around her goes insane she keeps her sound mind… Has the strength to collect the shattered pieces of a person and pull her up and makes her stands on her own ground…

A mixture of sense and sensibility… an affectionate person… easy going and fun loving… always with a smile on her face… a friend who will threaten to slap you when u need one (and will stick to her word)... a sister who will know when to hug u and when to scold u… she will vary from a shopaholic to a chocaholic… (non alcoholic) she is at her best when she turns to a bitch which is a bonus to her friends…

She is a woman who makes mistakes… who accepts them and says sorry…, she is a woman who knows when to laugh… a woman who wakes up in the morning and drags herself to work wishing that she slept more… she is a woman who gets stressed.. a woman who knows how to have fun… she is a woman who is loved for what she is… a woman with pride... a woman who knows how to live… she is a woman in total control of herself…

thats why she is a "best friend"....

A friend is someone whome u can tell all ur secrets… because u know it will be kept safe…, a best friend is someone who knows ur secrets.., u don’t have to tell her, just one look and she ll know what ur thinking… dedicated to my best friends who kept me sane through all insanity.. unfortunately I cant write da best incidents :P

1. When u suddenly have a public meltdown a friend will squeeze ur hand and say “everything is gonna be alright” a best friend will drag you to the closest washroom and tell “cry now… next time u cry in public im gonna slap u”

2. When ur in hospital ur friend will bring you apples and flowers… ur best friend will send ur mom home and spend the night with u…

3. When ur not at home and when a friend comes…, she ll chat with ur mom drinking a cup of tea, ur best friend will go the kitchen and help her cook…

4. Ur friend will barge in to ur room look at the mess and laugh… ur best friend will start cleaning it out for u…

5. A friend will ask u whats wrong… a best friend will figure out whats wrong…

6. When u want to sneak behind ur guy to see if he is cheating on u, a friend will say “he is a jerk, he is not worth it”... a starving best friend will go around Colombo with you to hunt him down :P

7. A friend will borrow your cloths and return in few days… a best friend will steal your cloths and will never return back…

8. A friend invites you for lunch…., a best friend comes in, goes to the kitchen and eats in ur kitchen…

9. When ur sick, a friend will call to see if u are alright…, a best friend will walk all the way to ur office with a bundle of capsules and syrups…

10. When ur having an exam the next day and haven’t studied a bit, ur friend will wish and pray for u, ur best friend will call u and will start teaching u just so u wont screw up…

11. When a random guy is being a pain in the ass and doesn’t get that “you are not interested” a friend will tell him off… a best friend will pretend to be your girlfriend to scare him off…

12. When u lose touch with a friend, it takes a while to catch up, friends need to be updated.. best friends have telepathy…, they just know… ;)

Friends can be seasonal… friends can be opportunists… friends can be disappeared after some time… friends can betray… friends can fallback after some time… friends may come in to your life and they may go away…

Best friends will be there, they have life time membership… they are authorized to influence you, to slap you, to kick u and sometimes even to kill u before u dig ur own grave…

That’s why u call her a “best friend”… because she is exclusive in ur life and authenticated to steal ur stuff… (not boyfriends) That’s why we call her a best friend, because she knows u in and out… and she wont be shocked with the wildest decisions u make…, because deep down inside she knows u better than u know urself… and she has faith in u, more than u have in urself… she will bring the best in u because she believes in u more than anyone else… J

Well played boys… 2015 is not far away…. !!!

It was an awesome feeling when everything began on 19^th of Feb… a season of joy, fun, team spirit … Sri Lanka was on such a hype that every office in Colombo seemed to be empty by 2.30 on a day that Lanka had a match to play… Country was filled with wishes, prayers, cutouts, banners and loads of songs about our beloved cricket team wishing them luck…

Among us, there were one or two who loudly predicted that “SL wont atleast qualify for quarter finals” But for the rest of us it was one wish.. one prayer... one hope.. one thought… We had our fingers crossed…. SL qualified day by day… people cheered across every street, every corner, every lane, every house when each boundry was played… people blasted the team when catches were missed (I thould I’d kill thilan Samaraweera for missing that catch and chamara silva for almost ruining the match)…

Semi Finals was a smooth smooth ride giving us lots of hopes, increases of heartbeats and adrenaline rushes… Entire Colombo was filled with blue t-shirts by Friday… it was such a hype everyone was looking forward to… Murali was given the best send off ever during his last match in the island…

We lost, lost with grace as I see…, but sad to see that many Sri Lankans don’t feel the same… Some say god decided to break 20 million hearts because he couldn’t break 120 crore hearts… 2^nd of April was a heart breaking day… tears of sadness mixed with tears of pride was in every Sri Lankan’s eyes… some saw it in a different way… At the end of the day its how everyone accepts defeat… some blame it on the team, some blame it on the President (as usual), some blame it on sanga…, some blame it on the selectors… some just simply accept that we did mistakes but Indian team played better cricket than we did…

“dear sanga..., u showed character and strength as a true captain... dignity with every step u took as leader... all the blames which come ur way today will be forgotten in a while & u will be written in history as one of the most charismatic captains ever.... keep shining.. il always love u…” I posted this on Kumar Sangakkara’s Facebook wall when I heard that he has officially resigned as the captain. Sanga, we don’t want an apology from you, No apology is expected from a country that treats its cricketers with dignity and love… we know you did ur best and u will always do…

When the team arrived on Sunday majority of us were having a smile on our face to welcome back them home… I felt proud, proud to be a Sri Lankan... not coz of cricket but to be one among 20 million people for the love & warmth they showed with open arms to welcome a defeated team...the amazing grace & dignity displayed to rise above the rest in a true spirit of unity and sportsmanship....

“Welcome back home boys - greeting you all with open arms. Murali, I'll tell my grandchildren (or cats) that I've seen your legend in the making - you're a cricketing phenom and Lanka will continue to brag about you for decades to come. Congratulations neighbours, it was a good game - party hard for 28 years' worth…” – Shamalee de Silva

murali, you were the best cricketer sri lanka ever produced..., the ultimate cricket hero to millions of fans... u will always be the most dignified cricketer we ever had and will be proud of u many decades to come… cheers for the spirit, courage and energy u gave in the name of sri lankan cricket... we will always love u...

The rest of the guys, You united a nation, during times of overjoyed victories to a hug of losing a game… you played with grace and dignity that it overshadowed the final result. .. we welcome you home boys… It will take sometime for us to overcome the lost hope and sadness… but one thing for sure, Sri Lankans will always stand behind you with a Sri Lankan smile, a pat on the shoulder and a waving flag behind every game you play… J