“Boundaries don't keep other people out; they fence you in. Life is messy, that's how we're made. So you can waste your life drawing lines or you can live your life crossing them. But there are some lines that are way too dangerous to cross...”
Sometimes people are scared... scared to build relationships… scared to fall in… fall out and also to let go… They draw boundaries… not for others but themselves, to fence them in… a line not to cross… so they don’t get hurt… so they are protected, not from other people but themselves… But sometimes you cross the line, you cheat to yourself… you don’t know when or how it happened it just happened…
People label relationships… give it a name and expect something else… get disappointed when things don’t go the way they want them to go... and blame the relationship… and tighten the boundary line which was never intended to cross…
Sometimes relationships cannot be labeled… yes we do it for our benefit, to find excuses to cross lines and fence ourselves in.. but at times we need to accept it for what it is… understand what it is and then deal with it… we need to know that every relationship is not friendship, not brotherhood or sisterhood but sometimes it can be unexplained.. undefined and un-understandable (I don’t think such a word exists)
At every relationship we want commitment… commitment and loyalty… what scares us is that the commitment wont exist or the loyalty will fade... so we tie ourselves to a label… to a boundary… to a deadline… hoping against all odds that we wont get hurt…
There are times when even the best of us cant commit, and we may be surprised at the commitments we're willing to let go… commitments we are willing to hang on to... True commitment takes effort, trust, love, loyalty and sacrifice… Which is why sometimes… we should learn to accept people for not committing…
We can waste your life drawing lines... or we can live your life crossing them... But there are some lines that are way too dangerous to cross…. Some people are bold enough to cross them, take the risk and get hurt… can call it stupidity (that’s what I call them :P) but we will never know unless we take the chance to cross… sometimes u cant let a boundry make decisions… sometimes you should take the chance and go with the flow.. ;)
"No matter how high the stakes, sooner or later you're just gonna have to go with your gut… and maybe, just maybe, that'll take you right where you were supposed to be…."
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