When it comes to life and love, why do we believe our worst reviews?

“Why is it that we only seem to believe the negative things people say about us, no matter how much evidence there is to the contrary? A neighbor, a face, an ex-boyfriend can cancel out everything we thought was once true. Odd, but when it comes to life and love, why do we believe our worst reviews?”

How often does what others say about you matter? Most of the times, when we hear something good about us, we feel good and when we hear something wonderful, we feel flattered. Apart from feeling great always the thought behind all the flattery is “ok whats going on?”

I have been a person who always welcome constructive criticism (lets say most of the times) and have been a person who only thinks compliments are 100% genuine when its from someone who really cares about you… when the rest of the world compliment, well either there is a need to start a conversation or a favour or its just a part of a simple gesture.. (how do I know this? Coz I do it all the time to strangers… wink… well it should be at least 70% true. So no harm in a 30% of exaggeration right?) Also I have this ugly habit of being bluntly honest to the people whom I care about most… My dad still doesn’t get me, when I give my honest opinion he thinks I see fault in everything and gets all DEFENSIVE. But that’s not the case, its better to hear it from your daughter than hearing it from a complete stranger… I’m lucky atleast most of the people around me think the same way I do.

What happens when you are being given the worst review? Knowingly or unknowingly we tend to believe it atleast a little bit… My question is how much affected are you from it? if its LOVE and if it comes from a loved one of yours, it is really difficult to absorb and forget… I’ve seen people take ages to get over the things which has been said irrelevant of the % of honesty in it. Sometimes you never get over certain stuff which has been told to you. Is it because we believe the worst review on us or is it the person who gave us the review?

How much affected are we going to be on it? are we going to change ourselves for the worst review despite of all great ones you received? Then matters the person who gave the worst review and the reasoning behind it. If that person is close, then fine we have to deal with it. If not, who has the right to be so judgmental on someone else’s life? Earth is full of homo sapiens and the difference I see between them and animals are that animals never judge someone else’s life…

When the worst review is given, although you believe the best is to clear how well the judge knows you. How well the facts are taken into consideration in being judgmental (I mean facts not rumors) If 90% of the judges are being optimistic and 10% pessimistic (worst case scenario), with consideration on how much the judge has absorbed YOU, forget the 10%. After all in a world of oxygen being 78% and still living on, who cares about a shitty 10% of bad reviews???

“Are we being too quick to judge judgment? Maybe judgment is not so much a snap decision as an early warning and detection device. If it is instantly clear that a person, a place, or even a profession is not for you, is it better to ignore your better judgment and believe the worst? Or, should you judge a book by it's cover?”