Tom Bodett once said “The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson” I have no clue who Tom is but this quote kept haunting in my head and kept me wondering about some of the lessons I’ve learnt in life recently…
Sometimes the silent is the best way to answer… Talking and arguing will work only if the same mentality is shared, if the levels of thinking differs from the changes of perception arguing or reasoning would not work at all… some people say “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool then to speak out and remove all doubt”
Sometimes When you occasionally have a really bad day, and you just need to take it out on someone, don't take it out on someone you know, take it out on someone you don't know. We feel that we can be rude and moody to the people whom we are very close with and they will understand.. But why hurt someone you care about? I’ve realized if you feel crappy about something and have to dump it on somebody who is a complete stranger… Don’t hurt the ones you care for, you never know how deep you have hurt them and by the time you feel guilty and try to mend, its too late…
Sometimes you always have to keep proving yourself constantly to people for them to have faith and belief in you… But I’ve realized the best way is not to bother to prove yourself right for people who cant trust you and understand you.. People who do not trust you never will, and who wouldn’t make the effort to understand will never understand either… Unless that person is truly valuable for you where you have to go that extra mile to clear the doubts…
Sometimes the hardest thing is to LET GO… letting go of someone seems difficult and takes away more time for us to recover, and probably all the energy we have... But if that person makes a move to go, then you have no right to stop… Coz everybody has a right to make their own move… similar to the quote “If you love something set it free if it comes back its yours if not it was never meant to be” (not always true) I’d say if you love something hang on to it till it decides to be free… LOL.. the day it decides to be free you have no choice than letting it free..
Sometimes we always make the extra effort to be nice to complete strangers… why bother? (I mean its wonderful to be nice for everybody: I meant for exceptional cases like me who cant make the effort to be nice to everybody) I’ve realized make that extra effort to the ones you love and care for… True that there is a chance they might take you for granted but after all its worth all the effort…
Sometimes pride overrules love??? All my friends say this to me but I guess I still haven’t learnt my lesson for this… “It is better to lose your pride with someone you love rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride”
People who know me well will say that I need to practice what I preach… and agreed whole heartedly… But sometimes it needs to hit you on the head to learn the lesson…
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Monday, March 16, 2009
cHaOs WiTh LeOs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Last September, things were great (i was thinking of using the word PERFECT, but things were never perfect with us: not in a bad way but who can expect perfection from a bunch of crazy nut cases???) What happened afterwards? Bites me...
Punctuality was never a key-word among us Leos, but being fashionably late was getting irritable with only few people working on time (the only few who worked on time followed the trend of being LATE) waste of time and effort reached its highest level and at certain times i realized its not only effort and time but my commitment has gone to the bin too...
The capacities of us are different, i'm not over-estimating ourselves but i feel the team we have is extraordinary and are blessed with many talents. We just need to put them right across to one FOCUS and sure we can do wonders. (I don't think many know that most clubs really envy us:) god knows for what reason but i always felt cos the bond we had within us which was truly seen by anyone who knew us)
What lies beneath and what really happened still bugs me. Most of us decided & made judgments after the project in December: the carols. i.e. when i realized that the commitment given by everyone is not the SAME. Like i said before we're of different talents and we have different ways of doing things but to work as a team we need the commitment EQUALLY. It may not necessarily be 100% but even if it is 50%, everybody should put in their 50%.
I still don't understand why i was accused of being a "de-motivation" to others where as i did my part for the project. I promised to find places to go and i found places where we can go and sing. (correct me if i'm wrong) But if everyone needs to do everything then it is everybody's responsibility to find places to go too... and hey what about our Leos who never came for the project? Credit for Mal for balancing both ends perfectly. Might as well accuse Shehari for NOT driving Chamal's van & me for not playing the guitar.
The understanding between us has gone to hell and i feel that everybody started believing EVERYTHING they hear. Why cant we just take the chance to clarify or give the benefit of doubt to the person we know well? (its just one call away: and all of us use either dialog or mobitel which costs only few rupees- except for Chamal who uses AIRTEL) why give a chance for misunderstandings when we all know 2 languages we can communicate with...
It really didn't take much time for the so called BOND we shared break down to pieces. Which always made me think why? i know that several people talked behind my back but was extra sweet and special to my face. Is it that the person who gives information is a backstabber or the rest has two faces? (i'm still wondering) In the short run, when someone told me about someone else, i've been hurt & confused. I've been friends with almost all and there are few whom i really care about & consider close. Judging behaviors of both the sectors, I had two options. (A) believe what i hear and screw my relationships with others (B) Dont give a shit to what they say, be-myself and keep up the friendship. Its very easy to go for (A) but after lots of thinking i realized in the macro sense NOTHING is worth ruining the friendship you have with people you care about. So i chose option (B)
What would you go for (A) or (B)? the choice is yours...
Punctuality was never a key-word among us Leos, but being fashionably late was getting irritable with only few people working on time (the only few who worked on time followed the trend of being LATE) waste of time and effort reached its highest level and at certain times i realized its not only effort and time but my commitment has gone to the bin too...
The capacities of us are different, i'm not over-estimating ourselves but i feel the team we have is extraordinary and are blessed with many talents. We just need to put them right across to one FOCUS and sure we can do wonders. (I don't think many know that most clubs really envy us:) god knows for what reason but i always felt cos the bond we had within us which was truly seen by anyone who knew us)
What lies beneath and what really happened still bugs me. Most of us decided & made judgments after the project in December: the carols. i.e. when i realized that the commitment given by everyone is not the SAME. Like i said before we're of different talents and we have different ways of doing things but to work as a team we need the commitment EQUALLY. It may not necessarily be 100% but even if it is 50%, everybody should put in their 50%.
I still don't understand why i was accused of being a "de-motivation" to others where as i did my part for the project. I promised to find places to go and i found places where we can go and sing. (correct me if i'm wrong) But if everyone needs to do everything then it is everybody's responsibility to find places to go too... and hey what about our Leos who never came for the project? Credit for Mal for balancing both ends perfectly. Might as well accuse Shehari for NOT driving Chamal's van & me for not playing the guitar.
The understanding between us has gone to hell and i feel that everybody started believing EVERYTHING they hear. Why cant we just take the chance to clarify or give the benefit of doubt to the person we know well? (its just one call away: and all of us use either dialog or mobitel which costs only few rupees- except for Chamal who uses AIRTEL) why give a chance for misunderstandings when we all know 2 languages we can communicate with...
It really didn't take much time for the so called BOND we shared break down to pieces. Which always made me think why? i know that several people talked behind my back but was extra sweet and special to my face. Is it that the person who gives information is a backstabber or the rest has two faces? (i'm still wondering) In the short run, when someone told me about someone else, i've been hurt & confused. I've been friends with almost all and there are few whom i really care about & consider close. Judging behaviors of both the sectors, I had two options. (A) believe what i hear and screw my relationships with others (B) Dont give a shit to what they say, be-myself and keep up the friendship. Its very easy to go for (A) but after lots of thinking i realized in the macro sense NOTHING is worth ruining the friendship you have with people you care about. So i chose option (B)
What would you go for (A) or (B)? the choice is yours...
Why don’t humans eat their own children?
This was some question I’ve heard somewhere, don’t ask me where, I can’t remember. It seriously made me think… WHY?
Humans eat all kinds of flesh of animals, so do animals. We kill animals, also kill other human beings for various reasons, then why don’t they eat their own children like many animals do? (Humans eat their kids literary what I mean is in physical terms)
Is it because humans are blessed with brains and Intelligence or because they simply have the power to think twice before they do actually do something which is a crime. Or is it because only humans are blessed with the feeling of guilt and regret which animals don’t have. (Well my dog did, and I never considered him as an animal: he was family)
A friend of mine told me that humans might eat their own children for survival if there is nothing else left but what matters is the thought of killing. A human gives birth to a child after 9 months which is the longest time period comparing with other animals. The 9 months of hope, expectations and love does not allow someone to kill their own kith with all trouble gone through.
Humans have millions of expectations from their own children, from the time they are born till and after they get married... During most instances they live their life through their children. If they had grown through hardships of life, the goals and dreams which could not be attained are passed to your own children for them to achieve. No its not selfishness its what they think is BEST which could not be achieved by them should now be achieved by their own children.
The satisfaction gained by parents seeing their own children growing up, experiencing life and succeeding is much more valuable than the physical need or satisfaction.
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